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For sure, anyone can find its own formula to success because there are unlimited mixtures of formulas in our unlimitied world of possibilities.

There is no need to for anyone of us to worry about finding the exact formula but to find OUR OWN formula.

Dr. Joe Capista discusses exactly that in his book

Chapter 8

Five Part Formula for Success

Success is not single sided; it is a holistic experience taking into account all of life’s experiences. I view success as a Five Part Formula. Our conversation about success starts with business, but ends with the total life experience.

If I asked a group of people to write down everything they needed for success in business and life we could probably fill countless whiteboards, blackboards, flipcharts, computer files and notepads. I have found there are only five basic skills needed in order to be successful:

You can see that he found to be a success in the business of field the following skills:

1. Become an Expert / Have a Great Product and/or Service
2. Develop Sales and Marketing Skills
3. Get Help from Experts (Mentors)
4. Control Your Thoughts
5. Create Balance in Your Life

The most relevant and important of all skill that you should acquire is as always Balance:

Book Excerpt

Chapter 11

Balance — A Requirement for Total Success

By the time I was in my late twenties, I really felt as if I had arrived. I was making great money, driving a fancy car and living in a big house. Everything I based success on, I had. The harsh reality was, my life was in turmoil. Although I had a level of success, I didn’t have TOTAL SUCCESS.

It’s the same with my friends who make millions and millions of dollars annually. They make more than I’ll make in a lifetime and yet they don’t have what I now understand to be TOTAL SUCCESS. They only have professional success. Their main focus is business. They have difficulty in relationships, failed marriages, problem children, they misuse their authority and power and they eat and drink to excess. Their life is in turmoil and their lifestyle is killing them.

I don’t know how to assess another’s spiritual well-being, but I think that it’s hard to have inner-peace when your life is in turmoil. My experience has shown me a successful life is more than a successful business. This was a lesson hard learned. By the time I had

“arrived” I was working way too much; 60 to 70 hours a week, sometimes more. I’d work until ten o’clock on Friday nights and often be in my office on weekends. I was driven to be successful in my business.

As I mentioned earlier, the first year out of dental school I made $50,000. This was under very poor conditions. Even though this was a lot of money by most people’s standards, my goal was to make $100,000 the second year. In 1978, that was a ton of money and I pulled out all the stops in order to reach that goal. By today’s standards that would be $300,000 – $400,000 a year.

I was driven to produce. Nothing was going to stop me. I did what I needed to do continually for the next couple of years. I had arrived, so I thought. I was 29 years old. I had a five-bedroom house on a 1-acre lot, a Mercedes-Benz, and my life looked great

— from the outside.

What wasn’t apparent to a casual observer was I also had a wife and children I never saw, or saw very little. Even though I was doing what I thought a good husband should do, my wife was very upset. She was doing everything with the kids and I was not there to help and support her on that level.

Anne was so upset, I would come home at night and she would scream at me and say, “You’re not here; you’re not helping. I can’t go on like this!” I found myself making many promises like, “I’m only going to do this for a little while, it’s going to get better, and I’m going to change.” A year would go by and I wouldn’t change; I continued to be driven to make the money to prove I was successful.

Where I grew up, not many of my friends went to college. The fact that I became a dentist was a step above. I was hell-bent on showing people that it doesn’t matter where you start, you can make something of yourself. I would constantly affirm, “I came from a working class neighborhood; I am now successful and make enough money to buy whatever I want.”

What was important at the time was to make enough money to show people I was successful. At that point in my life, it was more about showing them I was successful than living a successful life. The one way I could do it was to make a lot of money.

People would say, “Wow. You’ve made it!” That meant a lot to me! Little did I realize all my focus on business and money was putting my life completely out of balance. I suppose if I would have paid attention to what my wife was saying and how I was feeling I would have known how out of balance I was.

Read more or buy the book What Can a Dentist Teach You about Business, Life and Success? Discover Secrets To Achieving Total Success! By Dr. Joe Capista in Amazon or at Joe Capista’s blog.