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I think one of the most sought thing in life is having a partner to which spend the rest of your life. We do have some expectations about how this partner should be but sometimes we are expecting some things that do not really qualify as what we are really looking for.

Obviously if you do not even know what you really need to look for to have a good love relationship even less you will be able to find your true love. That is for sure one of the main reasons why so many love relationships fail these days, we are all often mislead with celebrities, idols, models and lots of other external factors that make us believe that it is the external look that is important for a great love relationship.

Even though your presence (how good you look) is also part of the equation at least at the very beginning, because lets face it the first thing you see in a person is its external look, your external presence also reflects your personality and how good you care about yourself. Think about it for a moment do you think that someone who do not really care about his dental hygiene is really reflecting a good image? If someone cannot care about himself enough then how can you care about someone else? Believe it or not, it is all about reflection and when someone is really interested in you it will note every single detail and “defect” you might have. That is why “the first impression” and “love at first sight” exist but in the end it is not the most important thing.

Real Pure True Love is what you should be looking for in a person, and the only way you can find that is by looking inside the person’s heart. With that said let’s try to describe what is really Love

What is Love?

The best way I can think of doing is to describe it instead of giving you a definition: my relationship

My wife and I met in a very interesting way I would say uncommon way for what it resulted to be. First of all I saw her many times in the halls of the University but she even did not know that I exist… I would just let the things go by but I wanted to meet her someday. Interestingly enough and for very much coincidence (or destiny?) we were both standing at a bus stop waiting for the bus, I call it a coincidence because I would always drive to the University and that would be my first time using the bus.

At that moment, I knew with all certainty that this was my opportunity to make my move to meet her, I did notice that gift from heaven that my car got broken and had to take the bus so I did not let this chance go… I would go to her and just extend my hand and kindly tell her : “Sorry I have seen you a couple of times at the University and I just wanted to meet you, my name is … and yours? “ … that was it, when she looked at my I knew that there was something special here.

The bus came up, and we were chatting all the way to the bus stop in which she would have to get down, obviously during that time I asked her for her phone number and also let her know that soon I would be calling her to go out.

A couple of days have passed and I took my time to give her a phone call, and I would say: “Hi…., how are you? Are you busy now?? I just thought that maybe you can come with me and buy some medicines for my dog, would you like to come? “

Are you crazy? You might think! What would I have been thinking to ask her on a first date to buy medicines for a dog , which in some way would not have helped too much because she don’t really like dogs ! LOL … Well that is the beauty of being yourself… it was impressive, it was simple and it was effective… no pressures of looking good, or whatever… just go chit chat a little, smile and be yourself…

After that I just returned her home… and the rest is history now she is my wife…

Now during the time before we got married (after 5 years) we did a lot of stuff together and it was during this time that I could see that what we had was true and pure love. I have to admit that this post is like a tribute to my wife. She always knows how much I value her support but she might not really be able to see how important is she in my life.

What I define as a love are small facts that let you know that a person is fully into you and is willing to make sacrifices (when it is needed) to make things work (this applies in both ways of course). So here is a list of things that I have noticed since I started my relationship that I think quite well describe Love:

-When you are happy, sad, depressed she is there with you giving you support.

-When you are worried she is there encouraging you.

-No matter if you are going through good times or bad times she is there on your side.

-If you are sick she will stand by your side and give you all the medicines you need and help you feel better.

-Both sides will be more than happy to find a middle point in which both are comfortable.

-If you need help, help will be provided.

-If you are developing a plan for the future in which both agree then both will do the best to make it work.

-You will never hear your partner talking behind your back because your back is her back and vice versa.

-If you have a dream or a goal, she will be there for you to do all she can to help you achieve your goals.

-She will always listen even though she does not care about what you are talking about and falls asleep… it is ok what you should see is that she was doing her best to hear your rantings and discoveries even though it does not mean anything to her.

-Your partner help you double your efficiency because she knows that in order for the plan to work you have to work the plan.

-When she is cooking for you, ironing your shirts, cleaning the house and doing a part time job it is because she is looking forward for your health, your presence, your reputation and also working for the plan you have both mind.

-When your partner decides to leave her family behind in order to migrate with you to other country for a better future for both.

-When your partner believes in your ability to make things work out without ever judging your decisions but instead trying to give some ideas.

-When your partner trust that you are loyal to her because she expect from you constant communication and feedback about the relationship status.

-When no matter how many years have passed you still tell your partner that you love her many times in a day.

-When you call yourself “lovely” names even in public.

-When people outside of your relationship can feel how solid your relationship with your partner is.

It is all this things and many more other small pieces that shows you the love for a person, in any case love means GOD and by loving someone you are giving this person pieces of god. I am very happy to receive so many pieces of God from my wife… and now I wonder myself how it will be when I have kids… one thing is for sure Love exponential